I find that so many doll owners hate kids. I want them to know that every time they make a child out to be some horrible gremlin that *gasp* touched their dolls, I am mentally hitting them with their own doll.
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Unfortunately, for kids doll = toy and not usually in need of the careful handling these dolls need sometimes. Have you seen how some kids treat their toys? That and they’re usually heavier than they look. I will probably never have children of my own (adoption is on the table, though). Any child I raise will have a respect for other people’s things. I can’t guarantee the same of their little asshole friends.
That said, I get nervous when my dad handles my dolls sometimes. Not because he’s reckless, he’s quite gentle, it’s just because someone is holding them that’s not me. And usually without letting me know. If I’d left someone sitting near where I do my computering, sometimes I’d find them lying on a nearby table because my dad was worried they’d fall off overnight. It’s a nice thought but augh-inducing.
Like that sinking feeling someone’s going to see the weird shit you’ve googled for writing or just curiosity when they sit down to look something up real quick.
Not every person on the planet is required to love children. Personally i’m not all that fond of children which is why i never plan to have any of my own. Children are annoying, obnoxious and gross. I’m also rather selfish with my time and things therefore I’ve made the decision not to share my life with spawn. This has NOTHING to do with my dolls. This is my decision and it deserves to be respected. I have never told anyone in my life that they shouldn’t have kids. If that is what makes you happy then i’ll never tell you not to do it unless you’re hurting yourself or putting your life in danger.
Just because i do not want children personally and do not want to share the delicate items in my possession with children doesn’t make me a bad person. I wouldn’t put a doll in a kids hands for the same reason i wouldn’t put my fox skulls or horse skull in a kid’s hands. they’d probably fucking break it from being too rough or the dropsies.
And lets not get started on the way some kids behave because of poor parenting. Kids are little unpredictable dirty psychopaths. I’m crazy enough. I don’t need crazy in midget form around me.
You want to procreate. Go for it. I’ll be nice to you and your kids but that doesn’t mean i have to like children nor am i required to share my possessions with them. OP, go eat a dick.
I’d let them touch my doll but only if it was supervised. Some people pay A LOT, not only for the doll but for faceups and accessories as well, and some people are very anal about who touches there dolls. I know one lady who doesn’t even let her doll friends touch her El. I have known her for 3 years, and I still haven’t held him. And I respect her decision and do not touch her doll.
If you’re fine with kids touching your doll, that’s fine, others may not be.
So as a summary:
My 700$+ doll > Your child’s feelings of not touching the pretty toy.
I love children, this may be a little obvious because I am an associate two year old teacher. This means I spend nine hours a day from 9am to 6pm five days a week with fourteen two year olds in one classroom. Not counting the other fourteen younger two year olds on the other side of the pod who come over frequently or I go over to their room. And honestly, they aren’t as bad as everyone makes them out to be (some anyway), but this is my personal opinion. There are two year olds that can respect a persons personal space and belongings. When I wear something to class they like [earrings for example] they come up and touch gently , but no one pulls, tugs, or takes. When I give them a toy or a stuffed animal of my own that thing doesn’t leave their hands. They don’t bang it, they don’t put it in their mouths, they don’t drop it, they’re oddly gentle due to curiosity. That and they are that the developmental stage where everything is ‘mine’ so really if you give something to them they aren’t letting it go. Not all children are bad, but some? Oh hell yes.
Now all this being said, would I ever let a child handle my doll? It depends on the individual child. There are two year olds I would rather let handle my dolls [with supervision] rather then adults. And there are some children I wouldn’t want in the same room as my doll, it’s that simple for me. It’s all about the individual no matter what the age. But not everyone feels this way and while I don’t have to respect it I choose to because arguing or bashing other peoples opinions isn’t gonna get me anywhere [not saying anyone is doing that!].